Dance and Music or Dance vs. Music

Personally, I play the French horn which although it's not limited in the fact that I can play in both Orchestra and Band. It is however limited to just that, Orchestra and Band. Although French horn players have been known to switch to trumpet to play in Jazz band, there is not too much movement on stage playing a concerto, or sitting in a chair with the orchestra. While speaking from personal experience however, I have also played on a drum before at an open mic night (a restaurant that has people perform whatever art form they wish every Mondays) and there were people dancing along or at least swaying. I feel that a lot of the Anglo Saxon culture is not very participatory and I truly wish that our culture would get together for full participation dance celebrations like the Native Americans. For even at the few events that are celebrated by song (i.e. weddings and birthday) we are still typically seated as a culture with the only participation being watching or singing along in place.
Contrastingly however, as a culture we do have courting atmospheres that involve dancing but the music is typically as far away from classical as one can get. With a heavy bass and crude words I often find myself tapping my foot to the beat, but annoyed and disgusted with society on how those songs are sung about women (or Bitches/Sluts in the songs often enough). Outside of the club atmosphere one can also find dancing in a workout facility once in awhile, and I cannot explain how much I love the samba, salsa, mambo, and other fun dances that are purely instrumental. Occasionally if one looks hard enough you can find swing classes and at schools (particularly community colleges) ballroom dancing is offered for couples. I've never actually used the swing dancing in public and am not familiar with what Spartanburg offers for that type of dancing. Even with the dancing that is offered in most Anglo Saxon culture the dancing is with prerecorded music and it’s just dancing. The only exception is once in a great while you will have live music at weddings, but it’s not until the after party when the dancing truly happens. To me it seems that dancing is something that the women in my family has always done (after a few drinks of course) but in our society it’s too “Feminine” or “Stupid” for the males to participate.